Connie, E. (2013). Solution building in couples therapy. New York, NY: Springer Publishing.
One of the classes that I enjoyed the most from my M.A in Clinical Counseling was marriage and family counseling class. It was in this class that I stablished my first contact with solution-focused therapy. This approach has become my preferred approach ever since in working with couples. As a pastor, time is always appreciated, and this approach is very helpful in helping couples to overcome their problems in a short period, compared to other approaches.
In this book, Elliot Connie presents the basic steps required for an effective therapeutic intervention with couples. Connie is a renowned specialist in the field of solution-focused therapy. The name of this approach says it all. Solution-focused therapy is mainly interested in building solutions and helping couples to find the tools and strengths they need to find in order to achieve the goal they set as the one they want to accomplish.
Connie writes in a very accessible way so even those who are not familiar with solution-focused therapy can understand the basic, and beyond the basic, about this fascinating approach. He first presents and overview of solution-focused therapy. Then he moves to the six steps the counselor needs to address in order to make this approach effective in behalf of the couples.
The idea beneath this approach is that the counselor does not spend much time exploring the details of the origin of the problem. It does not mean that the problem is not addressed; it would be impossible counseling couples without addressing the problem. The idea is that once the problem has been stated by the couple, the therapist focuses on questions related to the solution-building process. It can be made by asking them questions related with the hope they have for the future, what they would like to see different in their lives, or what would it take for them to go to that desired and realistic future. Then couples identify what things they need to do or change in order to accomplish the goal they have identified.
Connie also includes conversations between couples and the therapists as an example of how to ask questions, what kind of questions are effective in working with couples from a solution-focused approach, and many other useful examples that will help you integrate this approach in your work as a counselor.
This is a very short book (115 pages) and it is worth of the money. Once you become skilled in using this approach you will appreciate even more the money you invested in this book.
If you are a pastor, a family pastor, a church leader, a counselor, or any one working with couples, then you need this book.
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